So you are wanting to enter the world of dating a Mexican girl. You are not alone, trust me. The ultra-tight jeans, the heels, the long dark hair, the fact that you may not be able to understand much of what they say to you (this at times can be a great plus), all come together to form a nicely exotic package. Couple this with the fact that a gringo guy may be just as exotic and alluring to them, and you soon may find yourself in the Mexican dating pool. But beware, the norms and customs of dating in Mexico may not be quite what you are used to, especially if you come from a country like the United States. Undoubtedly, some of you may find this article stereotypical, but I have enough guy friends in living in Mexico that will vouch for the fact that many times, these stereotypes are spot on.
The first thing you need to realize is that Mexican woman are more used to being spoiled by their man. You will be expected to pay for dinner, and she may take great offense at the idea of splitting the bill. If you want to get to date number two, you will need to get in the habit of opening doors, offering her your coat if you are cold, and walking on the street side of the sidewalk, preferably holding her hand, even if you just met her.
Mexican girls are taught from early on to play up their femininity, and you are expected to notice her efforts. She is probably used to getting cat-called a million times a day as she walks down the street, so you will need to one-up those efforts, while coming across as sincere and respectful. (Yeah, I know, good luck).
To do so, basically pretend you are in a bad soap opera, and say all of the corny things that you would never say back home for fear of cracking up laughing. Then you will begin to hit the mark of what she is used to. “Mi tesoro, mi cielo, mi vida, te amo tanto, mi princesa!” (‘Oh, my treasure, my heaven, my life – I love you so much, my princess!’). This could be deemed appropriate talk in the first ten minutes of meeting each other if things are going well. Try to do this with a straight face, while gazing passionately into her eyes and caressing her cheek. As hard as it may be to believe, this is not overkill. Not even close.
Public displays of attention also take on a whole new meaning in Latin America. I have seen people full on making-out on the bus more times than I can count, and no one seems to notice or care. It’s normal. As a Latin friend once shared with me, “At least in Latin America you can tell when a girl is with her boyfriend. It’s obvious. In the US, you never know if its her brother she is with or what! They barely even touch walking down the road!” So do not be shy. Take her hand, kiss her passionately, nuzzle her neck…and it doesn’t matter if you are waiting in line at the grocery store together, or at her little sister’s recital. It always seems to be appropriate somehow.
Also, appearance is much more important in Mexico than it is in some other countries. To prepare for a date, you better put on nice clothes, be well-showered and smelling good. Anything less will not be tolerated.
So, if you want to date a Mexican girl, you better go buy some flowers, watch some soap operas for some good lines, and get all dolled up. Suerte, my friend, suerte.
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